Why Does One Lose Their Ability to Love?
Love is a complicated feeling that does not come with a manual. People act crazy in love and do not regret doing anything at all. Everyone believes that time changes people, but how can it impact a natural feeling? In reality, people can lose their ability to love for various reasons.
Do you sit on your couch and wonder if you have ever been in love? Everybody needs love, but how to make sure you’re actually in love with someone? Movies represent a false picture, often confusing people about what love looks like.
Shutting people out of your life can lead to severe depression and loneliness. Those who have stopped feeling the ‘love’ emotion can rediscover this feeling with a little effort. If you’re feeling unloved or fear that you have stopped experiencing this emotion, then here are some reasons why it might be happening to you. Once you know the cause, the solution will become clear as well.
You Fear Intimacy
Intimacy is common in a relationship that eventually strengthens it. Many people have a fear of intimacy that hurts their relationship. People with this fear in their minds cannot stay in the game for a long time and are never showing their weak side. Strong relationships cannot be built unless both parties share their strong and weak sides.
The fear of intimacy can make the person sabotage the connection, cause them to panic, or simply leave the relationship. This fear creates a wall between people that cannot promise a strong and long-term relationship.
Naturally Low Self-Worth
Another reason why many people stop feeling love in themselves is because of low self-worth. They start believing that they are hard to love or something wrong with them. This feeling can make them think they are not as good as other people, limiting them from loving someone.
Many people struggle with their self-esteem, but it should not stop them from feeling loved at all. If you feel worthless, you naturally attract people who feel the same for you or themselves. The best way to get rid of this feeling is by working on your self-esteem and gaining your confidence back.
Too Much Dependency Factor
Dependency can scare people away. Becoming needy in a relationship for anything can make people think that you cannot handle your life and need others to take care of you. There is nothing wrong with asking for support, but total dependency on others leads to resentment is not ideal.
If you’re unable to see your inner strength, then nobody will do it for you. This feeling of neediness might be coming from discouragement or criticism from childhood, but it’s a sign that you need to work on yourself.
No Reason behind Dating
A lot of people only date for the sake of dating, and that’s the worst you can do to yourself. Many youngsters feel the void in themselves that they fill with so-called love or relationships. Everyone is under the pressure of finding the right person by the age of 21, which ultimately leads to relationship disasters.
Love is rare and can even be found on the sidewalk without you realizing it. Posting stuff on social media or setting relationship goals is the worst form of love in our society. Nobody wants to show the ugly side of the relationship, which is why what you see on the internet is fake!
Fear of Commitment
Losing someone you love is not easy. It only eats easier with time, and there’s nothing you can do to get rid of the feeling except for feeling it. If you have your heart broken first, you will always be cautious of entering people into your life. You might put your heart in several layers to make sure you never feel the loss ever again.
Such types of relationships are always on the verge of breaking up. One small mistake and you might start thinking that the other person is planning to leave you. In short, these relationships are never stable and can be extremely upsetting for both parties.
Fear of Abandonment
The fear of abandonment is a serious issue that might have its roots in your childhood. The trauma can reflect on your relationships where you might always worry if your partner will leave you or if they are not happy with you.
This feeling will encourage you to do more for them, which is not great if they need less. Parents’ divorce, neglect from adults, etc., are some of the many reasons behind someone facing abandonment issues in the future. It’s hard for such people to trust others, and therefore, they cannot easily fall in love as well.
Childhood Abuse
Childhood abuse is another reason people cannot feel love for others. Such people don’t let others come close to them unless they have faced their fears. They will replicate the same pattern in every relationship, which eventually sabotages it.
It’s important to get professional help for this behavior if you wish to enjoy a good love life in the future.
A Notebook of Love reflects on all such important parts of life that affect our mental health to the point that people cannot love. It’s not just a simple biography, but a manual that will give you hope for new life. It’s a reminder that your life can also improve if you just take the step and be the person you want to be with.
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